03 Nov 100,000 hours of Sleep!
So, I’m 30. This is my 30th year on earth, I’ve lived approximately 10,978 days, taken around 316 billion breaths and slept for around 100,000 hours (how nice does that sound!).
As I commence my 30th trip around the sun, I’m reflecting on where I am now and how I got here; No, I don’t mean sitting in my lounge room, where Cranky the Wonder Cat is having his usual daytime nap and I’m surrounded by photo’s, objects and things that I’ve gathered over the years – I mean how did I become who I am?
As I sit and think of all the things I thought I’d be, have accomplished or be doing, I realised that I haven’t really ticked any of the virtual boxes that have floated around in my head.
I’m not married, I don’t have kids, I don’t own a house, I haven’t visited the UK or Europe, my butt is nowhere close to fitting into a size 10 pair of jeans, I haven’t invented something or seen a shooting star, I’ve never been a contestant on a TV show or been to New York, I’m not fluent in another language and I’ve never really understood politics.
So that’s a few of the things I thought I would have achieved, and as I was considering why I haven’t achieved those things, it dawned on me……
What have I done?
Well, I’ve packed up my life and moved to another city to start over (twice!), been black water rafting, sat with a wild tiger, had reconstruction surgery on my ankle, stayed up all night and watched the sunrise, been at work for 29hrs straight, had my drink come out my nose, been a bridesmaid, attended 3 funerals for family members within 3 months, shaved my head, swum with wild dolphins, spent many nights camping, played in the snow, been in a coma, giggled uncontrollably at the worst possible time, worked with the disabled, the homeless and the disadvantaged, crashed a car into a petrol bowser, quit a job after 4 hours, been so sunburnt I required hospitalisation (many times), gone 6 weeks without shaving my legs (probably longer), ridden a camel, been a juror, learnt how to tie a snake into a knot in my mouth, been fully ventilated on life support and given 24 hours to live, owned way to many kinder surprise toys, become an Aunty 3 times, seen the wiggles in concert, took over a photographers camera at a friend’s wedding, worn way to many fancy dress outfits, painted a Brisbane city council bus (legally and with their consent) and been to New Zealand, Thailand and the South Pacific Islands.
But most of all, I’ve been a willing participant in my life by generally and unknowingly (at the time) taking the long, hard, winding road. Don’t get me wrong, at times that long road was probably exactly what I needed to do because I thought it was the “best way” to do things, but now I know better.
So, in finally realising this, I went searching for some simple mantra’s or a quote that I could look at everyday to remind me that change is possible, to not be too hard on myself when I don’t have to be and to make sure I’m aware of others and their needs – I wanted something that could really resonate with me and I stumbled across the Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz:
THE FOUR AGREEMENTS*
1. Be Impeccable With Your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life
4. Always Do Your Best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
After reading these agreements everyday for months, I’ve finally realised…..it doesn’t matter what I did or didn’t do in the last 30 years, what matters most is how I go about my life; how I treat myself and others; how I speak to people and how important it is to be who you are and be prepared and willing to change if you don’t like who you are.
What’s really exciting now is wondering what I’m going to achieve and accomplish – either scripted or unscripted in the next 30 years….By the way, I cheated a little, I actually wrote this blog when I was 30…..and I’d like to think I’m still closer to 30 than I am 35 🙂
If you want to change the script of your life, then why not engage Amovita as YOUR OWN coach, or engage them in your workplace with one of our training presentations, or book Amovita for your next strategic planning day. And if life isn’t going as great as you would like, then contact us to discuss our mediation program or engage in our family and employee assistance program. It doesn’t matter how you change your script, what matters is that you start the change now!
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